Hey there, this is in response to the first message you posted. trying to Direct connect and timing out.
First, follow this sequence.
click multi player tab > ok > you will get message "could not connect to Master Server..... > ok > join internet game > message "connection failed, try another Nick >
click cancel > now a list of the servers should come up in either the History tab or the Favorites tab. If they do not, heres what you do.....copy and paste this into your nwnplayer.ini file at the bottom in either [History Page] or [Favorites Page]
Server10=209.99.103.44:5145
Server9=209.99.103.44:5144
Server8=209.99.103.44:5143
Server7=209.99.103.44:5142
Server6=209.99.103.44:5141
Server5=209.99.103.44:5135
Server4=209.99.103.44:5134
Server3=209.99.103.44:5133
Server2=209.99.103.44:5132
Server1=209.99.103.44:5131
Server0=209.99.103.44:5121
Then load the game per instructions above, double click a server or single click and click Connect, NOT Direct Connect...
I looked in what I think is the nwnplayer.ini file, which is the only file I can find named nwnplayer, and I can't find anything that says History Page or Favorites Page.
Hope this helps
-Z-